As Valentine’s Day approaches it gives us all time think about our relationship situation, whether it be because we are planning the ultimate V-day celebration with the one we love, sitting around thinking about how lonely we are, or scheming ways to pull off a tri-fecta for the big day. Whatever the case this is the season for self assessment. Whether happily single or dreadfully spoken for ,we all use this day to look back at our past situations during this time and judge our relationship history. Is it fair? Not at all. Speaking as someone who has yet have a Valentine, I’m more than willing to say I’ve had good relationships (along with bad ones) but it has nothing to do w/ my success or lack thereof on this socially construed day.
Are those who happen to give or receive a teddy bear or a dozen roses every February happier than me? Are they happier than you? Who knows, but if they are I’m sure it has nothing to do with if you can pull a date on the 2nd week in February every year. I understand how this time of year forces you to sit back and look at your relationship situation. This isn’t a problem; I think we should have a point where we sit back evaluate all aspects of our lives. The problem is when you start comparing your situation to your friends or feeling the pressures of the day. If you were happy being single last week, you shouldn’t let a few flower commercials change that. Evaluations of your situation are healthy but maybe change the date, so you can do it with a clear conscious. How about try it today, so come Monday you can be at peace with your situation and not let the forced happiness, or unavoidable loneliness distort your thoughts.
Just a thought.
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